FRIDAY SEPTEMBER 19, 2003
(Proverbs 8:11, James 1:5)
***This is a Devotional that I air at least twice a year since it is such a HUGE
issue for those who are part of the Internet world. Please read it CAREFULLY
and PRAYERFULLY. Every day, Liveprayer receives over 40,000 prayer requests.
Since we are in Internet-based ministry, I deal daily with thousands of people
who have had their lives altered or destroyed by Internet romances.
The wisdom of Internet
romances. One of my number one goals every day is bridge the gap between our
unseen faith and the very real world we find
ourselves living in each day. If there is one area the church as a whole has
failed in, and why so many find little relevance in many churches, is because of
the failure to take the very real day to day life experiences we have and put
them in the context of our faith in the Lord. As you know, if you have read
many of my Devotionals, I will not back off even the most controversial issues,
since it is usually THOSE issues many struggle with and need spiritual guidance
in. One of those issues is Internet romances.
I discussed in the past the trap
of chatrooms and how easy married people fall into sin in this area. Today
however, I want to address those who are single, and the wisdom of Internet
romances. First, there is NO SCRIPTURE that says "thou shalt not have an
Internet romance." The spiritual application here is from a standpoint of
wisdom and discernment. After all, it is God who gives us wisdom, and like all
gifts He gives, we are to use it.
I realize that there may be some of you reading this Devotional right now that
met your spouse over the Internet, you developed a spiritual foundation
in your relationship, dated over a period of time, had confirmation in both of
your lives from God that this was part of His plan for your life, and have a
very healthy and happy marriage. ***There are always exceptions! However, I can
tell you from dealing with this issue over the last 48 months, having seen tens
of thousands of emails from men and women, Internet romances are NOT a good
You have two basic problems with
Internet romances. First, is the distance factor. Second, is the fantasy
problem. The problem with long distance romances is the fact that without being
in the physical presence of a person, it is very difficult to develop any
chemistry, develop a bond, and really get to know each other well enough to make
a wise decision on whether this is really a lifetime relationship.
Again, I know there are many
examples where two people have made it work, but trust me, those are exceptions
and not the rule! Two people who potentially may spend the rest of their life
together, need a period of time to see if they can build a spiritual foundation
to their relationship, to see if they can communicate, to have the time to be
able to properly hear from God about His will for them. There is NO
substitution for spending time together.
With the Internet, you have a
blend of fantasy and reality. When your main form of communication is email,
Instant Messages, and chatrooms, you are in
a blended world. You build a mental image of who this person is with little
basis in reality. Of course, via email, they are PERFECT. They literally
become to some extent, a creation of your imagination. This is NOT healthy and
Some of the frequent problems I encounter daily in regard to this issue are
these. Many of the "single" men and women you are dealing with are NOT
single, but married. Of course, you don't find out about this until you are
very well into your cyber relationship. Another major problem is no matter how
spiritual your conversations may be, at some point, sex enters into the mix.
This often leads to involvement in cyber sex, usually advances into phone sex,
and commonly ends up in the real thing.
The biggest problem however is
at some point the "relationship" advances to a point where you actually meet
each other in person. Usually you have had many months of contact with this
person, you have created in your mind who this person is, and there is
incredible thrill and anticipation in actually
meeting 'real time." Many men and women are predators and use the Internet to
find their prey. Because you DON'T really know them since you have never spent
any time together, since you have fantasized who this person is in your mind
without really knowing for sure, you have left yourself wide open to incredible
I love you so very much, and I
really do care about you. After these 48 months you are like part of my
family. The things I have shared with you today come from dealing with real
people, many who have had their lives turned upside down from Internet
romances. I realize many of you are lonely, and thus you become easy prey for
those men and women trolling the Internet for someone to take advantage of.
But you are not using wisdom,
and playing a very dangerous game. The end result of most of these situations
range from people being used sexually
then dumped, people being taken advantage of financially, marriages that end in
divorce, and in one case...death. Internet romances are NOT a good idea. They
are not wise.
You are much better served doing
it the old fashioned way. Meeting someone in a real face to face meeting.
Dating. Building a spiritual foundation together. Ultimately, putting
yourselves in a situation where God can confirm to both of you that this is part
of His plan for your life. God is the one who gives us wisdom. In regard to
Internet romances, use wisdom and don't get involved in one!
In His love and service, Your
friend and brother in Christ,
If I can help you in any way you
can contact me through my personal email
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